Yesterday I got the chance to hold my newest nephew in my arms for the first time. For those of you that really know me, I’m not the most baby crazy person in the world. I prefer children when they get a touch older and can walk around a little more. Yet I’m reminded that with the birth of a new life, we as humans can go through any change that we want at any point in our lives and participate in a re-birth of our own.
Do you know people in your life that seem stuck in a holding pattern, unable to view their challenges from an outside point of view? To the point that when they seemingly ask for help, all they want to do is to be heard complaining, moaning and groaning instead of taking the steps necessary for a better, happier attitude and lifestyle?
My in laws who have my new nephew heard tons of advice from other people about how they should raise their child- two days old now mind you. I reminded them along with my wife that this will continue for the rest of their lives- so take the time now to filter out what others have to say as ultimately your decisions on how to raise this child are the most important.
I knew going into parenthood I could take all the parenting books on the market and basically be prepared to throw them out the window. Taking in two children who came into our lives at 7 and 9 years of age, a lot of their personalities and views of life are already formed. Parenting adopted children becomes a balancing act between what you want to place in the structure of the house as far as traditions and values along with what they are ready for based on their previous past experiences.
As much as we’ve tried to create a new life with new promise, if they want to stay stuck in past patterns you have to be patient and provide the love and support they need based on the level of comfort they are at.
What I’m asking you to think about is the fact that at any point in the stages of life, we can take a new path or slightly change course without sacrificing who we are as people. The one person you have to be true to is yourself- no matter how many outside opinions you seek for consultation.
If you want to generate a second income to go back to school with, do so. If you want to move away from your family and start a fresh new life in another part of the world, go for it. If it’s time to seek out new friends because what you value and consider important has changed, break through and find those new social outlets and meet new people.
I don’t think you want to be sitting around 10 to 20 years down the road living in a world of “I wish”, “I could”, or “I should”. Write out a dream or idea list of all the things you want to do, be, have, explore, share and make an impact with. In your mind there’s no sense worrying about the “How” you are going to use to accomplish these desires. Get them out there and let the universe think of ways you can make the imagination become reality.
I’ve read many stories of individuals who didn’t finish high school, or were told there was no way they could do something based on mental or physical limitations that made them achieve all that they desire and more. Turn a no in your mind into a next- because there is always someone willing to help, willing to hope and willing to move you along to realizing all that you are born to have.
And when it comes to my nephew and our family…. we are so blessed to have you in our lives. Enjoy the love, the support, the care and the comfort so that you can achieve everything your head and heart desires.