What Can We Substitute?

July 27, 2010

So many times in life we complain that we never have enough time to squeeze in all the activities in the day we want to pursue. I understand that between work, travel, often being involved in the activities of your children you have little left in the tank for your own personal hobbies and goals.

You have to remember though: we only have a finite time on this earth. Think about the amount of time you spend in passive consumption with the radio going, the computer on, the consistent buzz of your cell phone and the background noise of television. It’s okay to have a mental and physical escape from the day to day stress, but we don’t want to spend hours on end living a satisfied life in this manner.

What can you substitute if you need to spend more time in another area? Is getting up an hour earlier a better solution if you want to get your exercise in for example? How about shutting down the television for an hour during prime time and starting up a special game night with your children? If becoming knowledgeable in a new skill for work or for personal development is in order, set aside those 30-60 minutes a day if necessary and pick up the books, the audio or video material, or take the courses and seminars you need to for your future.

We don’t want to live the rest of our lives on Someday Isle. We know plenty of people who talk about what they want to do, then fail to take that first step or risk in order to achieve what they truly desire. It’s better for some to stay complacent and complain than to actually get off of their duff, surprise themselves and as a result take their lives in a total unique direction they never expected. Don’t give me the excuses of I’m too young, I’m too old, I don’t have enough education, I don’t know where to start, and so on.

Where there’s a will, there’s always a way. I carve out the time I need to for writing, for listening to music, for bowling, for spending time with my family, for rest and relaxation. If it means I write out daily to do lists, I start the night before and know what I need to accomplish. If you love what you do, it won’t seem stressful or even like work- it will be invigorating, fun and uplifting.

Speaking of which, I’m looking forward to this new summer series with Tony Robbins called Breakthrough on NBC. It’s only a six week series, but I think now is an important time to see what changes we can make and take a look into other people’s lives to see what they have been able to accomplish with a little bit of guidance and proper direction. I’m glad Tony was persistent to get this show on the air as I know it’s been in the cards for a long time.

Have a wonderful day. Praise people in public when you catch them doing something right. Acknowledge people in the service industry who go above and beyond the call of duty. Smile and the world will smile back at you.


All In For What You Want

January 16, 2010

During some of Jack Canfield’s audio program discussions, I remember his poker chip theory when it comes to life. People tend to play their hands of life in regards to how many poker chips they have at their disposal. If you feel like you have 10 chips and another person has 500 chips, the level of conservative play matters more to the person with less chips.

I think when it comes to life, since we only have a finite time to be on this earth, you might as well subscribe to going all in for what you want rather than approaching life with hesitancy, doubt or fear.

Today I went to have lunch with one of my friends who is an awesome bowler. I began peppering him with questions regarding his views on success and failure when it comes to the sport. He does learn from both experiences. He’s aware that no one person can win every league or every tournament- but he does have the mindset that he’s capable of winning every time. He definitely subscribes to putting it all out there so to speak- and leave nothing to chance.

When it came to adopting our daughters, my wife and I went in with the mindset that they would be our daughters forever. Even if other families couldn’t handle them, even if they needed to go for medical evaluations, even if they had to spend time at special treatment centers to get their minds back under control- we’ve always let them know they have a safe, secure place within our family. I think that’s why they’ve been able to achieve more successes and build solid relationships, because they now feel like they have a place they can call home and establish their roots without feeling like they are going to leave six months down the road.

I believe that’s why I spend so much time reading, so much time listening, so much time learning. I can’t be passive when it comes to acquiring knowledge. Once acquired, I want to work it into my life and also pass this on to others. If I can be helpful to my friends and family in any way, at least once a day, then I consider this one of my victories. Anthony Robbins often talks about that one moment in life where you see instantaneous change- but it may have taken 5 or 10 or 20 years of work to get up to that one point. I feel like this is what I’m doing when it comes to the books that I read, the entries I write, the interviews and seminars I listen to, the speakers that I view, and so forth.

I encourage you to really look at your own life and see if there are certain areas that you aren’t 100% committed to the outcome. Do you feel like you have one toe on the ground and the rest of your body floating in the air? Is there anything really wrong if you take total conviction and the result isn’t what you desire?

Look at one aspect of your life- it could be finances, it could be career, it could be hobbies/sports, it could be your partner or family, or it could be your own self-image and self-worth. Commit to excellence, commit to improvement, and strive to end up with a stronger mentality. You’ll be happier with what you achieve in the long run.

Success Leaves Clues…

December 8, 2009

I found out over the weekend one of my favorite personal development speakers Jim Rohn passed away. I discovered him through the work of Anthony Robbins and Jack Canfield. I would listen to some of his audio material like Take Charge of Your Life and The Challenge to Succeed through orders I made courtesy of Success magazine. He may not be with us any longer in physical form, but his information will live on forever.

A farm boy from Idaho who would make his fortune in his late 20’s and early 30’s, Jim Rohn made his money through sales with Herbalife, and then took his knowledge on the road and spent almost 40 years giving talks around the world about business philosophy and personal development. His insights were sharp and his information priceless. He would be forceful when need be and also deliver stories with the right amount of care and concern.

One of his many famous quotes is the title of this entry. He wanted people to understand that gaining success is not a mystery- if you really want something, you need to study the process, ask questions, get around the right people and then apply the knowledge that you gain. A lot of times he would use examples from the Bible and real life interactions to illustrate key points.

He’s the one that reminded me that you need to keep a journal and capture the ideas and thoughts that happen every day. Don’t trust your mind to remember all the short term and long term movements- ink it and keep it on you forever. That way you can look back and possibly take the seed of an idea and let it blossom into something that could multiply your income 2 times, 3 times or even 10 times your current income.

I recommend that readers go put Jim Rohn into a YouTube search engine and look at some of this man’s famous clips. Go to your local library and see if you can get some of his audio materials. If you like what you hear, go to the Success magazine store and see what you can purchase. I wish that I could make even a fraction of the impact that this man has made on lives around the world.

In other notes for the day, I’m really touched that my oldest daughter wants to get me a really cool Christmas present. I mentioned to her that another of my favorite personal development authors/ speakers will be doing a special workshop in 2010 in our local area and that I would like to attend. She asked my wife if she could borrow some money to get my Christmas present. When she asked how much, my daughter said- “about $500.” She said that I deserve the chance to see this speaker, and she realizes how much self-improvement and personal development matter to me.

Don’t worry- I wouldn’t expect my daughter to do this. I plan on gathering the money myself to attend this special one day workshop- but the thought does blow me away. 7 years before she wasn’t a part of our lives, and I’ve touched her enough to see that she wants my dreams to come true. I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree…